warning:...i DONT want my ex boyfriend back!
one of my friends announced that she is engaged and will get married late this year...they have been together for almost 2 years prior their engagement...they do look happy together... we (my ex and me) looked happy too before!...we talked about getting married year 2 of our relationship...we planned where to live...we discussed my relocation to his province after the marriage...we dreamed and draw our dream house...we had names for the babies including names for the twins in case we will have them(my father has a twin...that's explain the anticipation)...my parents and his parents already met (well, my parents visited his father in the hospital...its not something like we arrange a gathering for them to meet)...we've been together for more than 7 years (more than 5 years net minus the 2 break-ups of 6-8months each)...long enough to know and be comfortable with each other but still we broke up (i don't want to go to the details of it...its not worth the effort anyway...to sum it up...its his fault why!)
this leads me to ask which is better long or short engagement?
...my logical mind said ...long engagement is better because you get to know the person and his family better before deciding to tie the knot.
...my experience suggests...short engagement is better simply because i got burned by the long engagement!...and i think...the excitement of knowing him more is still there compared to the long engagement where almost everything is predictable.
but how long is long and how short is short?
...its obvious that one week is really short and 10 years is really long...but i don't have an idea what's the right time of the relationship to get engaged...i bet it depends on the age of the couple...(if they're in their 40's they're on the rush to get married...they will just have a divorce if it won't work!)...maturity level and stability both emotional and financial...(2 years might even be short if they are both immature and unstable)...
well...for singles (like me)...who are attractive but unattached, currently not dating but perceived to have someone special by almost everyone ...we really do not think of the short or long engagement...we are too busy enjoying life and trying to figure out where is our knight...he might have encountered an accident or detours along the way due to road construction that cause his delay! get help will you?!...im getting impatient for the long wait! :)
5 comments:
zelle this is really crazy crazy coincidence, i was seeing someone for 5 years too, samething, we broke up twice in the interim, i feel it was his fault!
And yeah mez getting impatient too, and like you said, the time of the engagement is a subjective thing, depends on the couples age, maturity and all.
OK now i will be suing you for plagarism, you stole my thoughts and put it on your blog :)
hi bhamini! thanks for dropping by...i will check if my workload permits my mind to work on the possible endings of the story.
kusum...i wonder in what court and where are you going to sue me? :)...its so amusing to know that we have almost the same experiences, thoughts and feelings...now im anxious...we might have the same crush! hehehe :)
the simple example of short engagement is our love story..the age and the maturity doesnt matter. We can't say that this was love at first sight. We just felt that "his the one" and "I'm the one". I think this is the so called "soulmates".. I'm hoping that you will soon meet your SOULMATE..
hi beth! miss u na!...yeah i do wish to meet him ASAP! hahaha...naligaw pa siguro yun!
No No we hve different crushes, just that they must be very alike too.
Hey i think i can sue u in the court of the soul sisters :)
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