Issue: nearing 30 and still single
People involved: relatives, and friends
Scenario #1:
My chat with relatives last saturday (I hate family gatherings…they always ask me why am I still single!)
Aunt 1: hazel, bakit dalaga ka pa? Wala ka bang boyfriend? Asan na si ____
(hazel, why are u still single? Don’t you have a boyfriend? Where is ____)
Me: (grinning)…opo dalaga pa! wala po akong bf ngayon..ay si____break na kami nun 2 yrs na! (yup, im still single. I do no have a boyfriend right now...uhmm ___ we already broke up 2 years ago)
cousin: Siguro kaya walang nanliligaw sayo kasi masungit ka! Tinatakot mo sila!
(maybe nobody’s courting you because you are snobbish. You’re scaring them!)
Me: ako? Di ah! Ang bait bait ko nga eh! (grinning…but pissed off)
(Me? I don’t think so! I’m very kind!)
Aunt 2: Ay Ginoo! Tatandang dalaga ka nyan! (OMG! You might end up an old maid!)
Me: di mangyayari yan! Nag –usap kami ni God ng masinsinan kagabi…binulong nya na magaasawa ako...sabi nya be patient my child! (It won’t happen! God and I had a heart-to-heart talk last night. He whispered that I will get married. He told me…be patient my child!)
Scenario #2:
Bumped with a friend last Sunday…
Friend: Uy…musta? Gumaganda ka ah! (sinabi nya talaga yun!)
Hey..how are you? Getting prettier! (he actually said that!)
Me: (smiles)…I’m good! Thanks! Ikaw kumusta na? (How are you?)
Friend: Oh…I’m fine too! Malapit na manganak si Misis…excited na nga ako!
(My wife will give birth soon…I’m excited!)
Me: That’s great!
Friend: Nag asawa ka na ba? (have u gotten married?)
Me: I’m still single!
Friend: Ganun?! Hay…kapag di ka pa nag asawa this year…ipaparaffle na kita!
(Really?! If you’re not gonna get married this year I’ll have you raffled!)
I was shocked…and wasn’t able to say anything!
During those 2 situations, this is what I really wanted to tell them:
Who cares if I am almost 29, unattached and single???? Big deal?! I am at the happiest stage of my life! Can’t you see? Are you blind? I am prettier (ehem!), more confident, assertive and somewhat successful…I am blooming! And I am enjoying life! Yes, enjoying it so much that I couldn’t feel the need for a partner just yet! Yes, I want to get married but I am not in a hurry! If you have nothing to ask other that why am I still single then just leave me alone!
23 comments:
Dearie, I am 25 and I also hear the dialogues are soooo familiar. Only one comment: AMEN.
Kebs ba kung walang bf....kung may darating, good...kung wala, wala, period. Oh boy, but believe me, people do have a hard time believing that a person can be happy even without a romantic relationship, but who cares? In the meantime, there are a lot of relationships we can attend to...like our families, friends....and ourselves...or God...ahay...sasabihin na in denial tayo. Bwahahaha....but again,keber... :D
lol! sabi ko na nga ba di ako nagiisang pinuputakte ng ganong klaseng tanong! :)
haha! the family gathering scenario is so familiar to me. although di ako ang person in question kungdi yung ate ko no! di na kasi siya nagpapakita, so i ended up being the spokesperson. ang lagi kong sagot, "ayaw pa niya mag-asawa kasi nagpapayaman pa! madali lang kumuha ng lalake diyan at magkaanak pero mahirap magkapera." believe me when i say na di na sila nagtatanong ulit. hahaha! try mo yun, tingnan natin kung mangungulit pa sila. =D
Filipinos, specifically the old ones, have only one idea of being happy... and that is having a complete and happy family. They have been led to believe that marriage will bring you closer to achieving happiness.
Happiness is not just being with somebody. It's being more at peace with yourself... knowing yourself inside and out. It's about realizing what you really want for your self and for your life.
So dont worry hazel, you're still in the right track! Don't mind them, I'm sure deep inside they envy you because at your age you have experienced and achieved so much. naks!
wellieeee! natuwa ako napadaan ka!
LOL! oo nga ganyan na nga sagot ko next time! nagpapayaman pa ako eh!
crossroads, astig ang comment!
yun ang masaklap sa iba old school ang alam! Sad to say my relatives are enrolled in that school of thinking!
yup, happiness is a choice. It is not anchored on someone else.
Nakaka-amuse naman tong post mo. But to tell you the truth, those questions are but one of the many. Once you get married (if you do), they start asking when you will have children. Once you have a baby, they will start asking when you will have a second one. And so on and so forth. It's one of life's minor annoyances.
But as you know already, it's your life, not theirs. So they can ask their questions all the want. What you do with your life is still your business.
Just my two cents' worth. :)
You'll soon find your man. A little waiting won't hurt. Who knows he's lurking on your blog for the longest time now just waiting for the right timing. :D
now look at that picture you got there in your sidebar! hindi man close up but you are a girlfriend material Zelle!
Now apir muna tayo kasi pareho tayo ng sitwasyon! Hmmmmm I'm thinking of posting the same topic but next week na siguro kasi baka negative na palagi post ko hehehe
Toe told me yesterday that people like us should focus more on our career because that is something that we can control...kumbaga may control tayo doon. Yung love daw hindi natin control yun. Binibigay daw ng Diyos yun. Di ba tama sha? Isa shang pantas! hrhrhrhr But seriously she's right.
Let's trust in life Zelle. Like what Niko said...a little waiting won't hurt :)
You're right kathy! i have a friend na 4 years ng married wala pang anak and they are bugged by the question kelan???? kahit na di pa talaga muna nila gusto.
I am really happy naman talaga minsan lang its irritating to be asked by the same question over and over again....parang kumustahin nyo naman ako para maiba!...hehe
thanks Niko! i do beleive he will come when the timing is right. :)
hey verns, kaya long shot yung photo ko para makadeceive ako! lol!
Tama nga si Toe kaya career muna! Atat lang talaga yung iba kong friends and relatives...ako naman happily waiting eh. Pero dati lagi ko ask God na ipa LBC na nya! hahaha...pero ngayon hindi na kasi i realized na madami ding blessings ang singlehood na kailangan i-enjoy. If i focus too much on the thought of finding the "right one" i might miss out other things worth enjoying.
Kaya enjoy muna tayo verns!
Ay! I posted something here yesterday... nawala... but then, my connection got cut.
Anyway, I said, I AM THE GUARDIAN ANGEL OF ALL SINGLE GIRLS! HAHAHAHAHA! :)
But seriously, great attitude Zelle! If you keep that wonderful attidude and disposition, all the angels in heaven and all the cosmic powers in the universe will get together and make all your dreams come true.
Stay happy and vavavoom! :)
hi toe! thanks! oo nga...kapag nalulungkot dahil sa mga tanong na ganyan naiisip ko yung sinulat mo nung valentine's day at napapangiti ako! isa ka ngang anghel! :)
Been there, done that. Believe me, marriage isn't what it's cracked up to be. I tell you... it's not at all a "happy ever after" kind of thing. And there will be times when you'll be longing for your single days, especially when you have a successful career.
I don't mean to frighten you but you have to ask yourself this question: Am I willing to face all the problems (financial, in-laws, incompatibilities, etc. etc.)that comes with married life and make sacrifices? If the answer is yes, then by all means... get married.
Oh I forgot, you have to get yourself a bf muna pala, hehe. But who knows? One of these days... :-D
Have a great weekend, Zelle.
:D thanks sngl...pero oo nga bf muna! pero napaisip ako ah...mukhang gusto kong matakot sa sinabi mo! hmmmm...tignan natin.
tama kayong lahat! the questions really never ends. walang katapusan ang tao sa pagtatanong.
alam nyo kung bakit? kasi nasa kultura na yata natin ang MANG-USISA! lalo na ng buhay ng may buhay.
kung single ka may tanong... kung married may sangkatutak na tanong rin! ano beh!
i do agree with snglguy... marriage is not always happy ever after. i should now. marriage is all about sacrifice... giving all you've got for your family. if you're not ready for that. better think more than twice!
masarap maging single! believe me. hehehe
Amen crossroads...Amen! :)i would really think about it kapag nagkataon but as of the moment i will just enjoy life!
parang may pinanggagalingan talaga ang comment mo ah! :D
tama sila, never ending questioning yan. pag single, asan gf mo? pag me gf, kelan ba ang kasal? (i've already got tired answering that question, so half-joking, half-serious i asked them for pledges for the wedding, they'll laugh and stop asking hehe) and then kapag kasal ka na, kelan naman ang baby? tapos pag me baby na, kelan ang kasunod... and so on and so forth..
zherwin, well that's life nga talaga never ending questions!
u know I hear the same thing , from so many people. and hav the same thing to say, I happiest in my life now. ofcourse I answer in a different way. I usually say, hey where is ur 5th baby, how come u r so slow :P
Jeseem, it only shows that there are lots of single individuals who are really happy and do not mind staying single for a while! :)
what interesting comments above and all so true.
Live life to the fullest whether you're alone or not.
Enjoy your individuality.
all the best and i've linked you up as well. thanks for the link up.
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